A woman should never feel as though she HAS to have sex with her partner. Married or not you have the right to say "No"!
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A happy relationship consists of, but is not limited to a HEALTHY sex life meaning the couple should enjoy it each time they do it! If you find that you are RARELY in the mood then their must be an underlying problem - Maybe you aren't physically attracted to that person anymore... maybe you can fix that ... maybe not (your choice to either try to "re-kindle the flame" or just let it blow out. - Maybe you feel insecure... that's a problem that needs to be fixed by your partner, he should be letting you know almost every day somehow that he is still attracted to you, even if its something as small as a kiss on the forehead, a wink, or even taking a picture of you out of nowhere and saying something like "i just thought you looked picture perfect so I took a pic!" But once and a while, for instance your period, or stomach issues or maybe something medically wrong, or just lazy or emotionally not in the mood those are issues that may come up but shouldn't be 24/7. Maybe trying a game or something to spice it up can cure the "sex depression". A man who loves you will respect the fact that your not in the mood for whatever reason that may be. He will not threaten you (ever) and make sure he makes you happy. In many cases, therapy, communication, and a renewed commitment are all it takes to get a couple back on track, but other times, the marriage has derailed for good. As hard as it is to face, divorce can sometimes be the only way for people to reclaim their spirits and rebuild their lives.
If you are wondering if this is the case for you (or if you simply want to beware of the warning signs so you don’t go off course), consider the following: 1. One or Both of You Has Emotionally Checked OutKnown as stonewalling in the therapy world, emotional shutdowns are often unfixable, as the partner at hand refuses to do the work necessary to fix the relationship. To make matters worse, the partner often pretends to be oblivious to this, denying that he has checked out or that something is wrong. Sadly, you can’t fix a marriage with someone who won’t even admit that there is a problem. 2. The Relationship Is AbusiveWhether the abuse is physical or verbal, you should never stay with an abusive partner, especially if you have kids who are experiencing or witnessing the abuse. As scary as it might be, the only way to put an end to the abuse is to get out of the situation as quickly as possible. 3. There Is Continued InfidelityWhile many couples consider even one act of infidelity unforgivable, others manage to work past such betrayal. Personally, I have seen many couples repair their bonds after infidelity, and as difficult as this time is, I know it is possible to find love again on the other side. However, if the infidelity continues, it might to time to say your good-byes. Monogamy is a choice, and unfortunately, it’s not one that everyone can make. 4. Addiction Goes UntreatedI have seen many couples work through the horrors of addiction and come out the other side better and stronger than ever before. However, if the addict refuses to admit that there is a problem and the addiction goes untreated (whether it’s gambling, sex, drug/alcohol addiction), then it is likely that the only answer is divorce. Addiction is a terrible and devastating disease, but sometimes, the best thing to do is walk away and protect yourself and your children. 5. The Sexual Attraction Is Dead and GoneMany couples experience months or even years in which sexual desire is nonexistent. If this lack of libido is a painful and pervasive part of your relationship, then it might be a death knell for your marriage. It’s very difficult to fix a relationship in which one partner desires sexual fulfillment that the other can’t or won’t give. Make Sure You Get Help When NeededAs long as you are both willing to work through your issues, then there is almost no issue you can’t tackle as a couple. But don’t wait! The longer you wait to discuss these problems, the bigger and more complicated they will become. Good luck and check out theAmerican Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists for therapists in your area. The site is: http://www.drlauraberman.com Well I have been pretty busy. I started working at the college in April as I said I was going to, and I loveee it! I knew I was waiting for the right job to find me! things have been going pretty good other then that too.
I made a few personal changes as well. First off I dyed my hair back to brown, only because my daughter wanted me to "look like mommy and not a star" lol she's too funny. I also learned to DRIVE finally lol. Well I did "know how" to drive I just needed to be shown a few things but now I got it and I plan to have my own car by this time next year (hopefully sooner!) The other thing I did, was find something I really enjoy doing: Taking pictures of beautiful flowers when I'm walking around. My friend said I have talent with it and a few people told me I should try to sell the pics. (The pic on the top of my page I took that) My daughter just Graduated Preschool today! I cant believe she's going into kindergarten in September and she will be 5!! oh wow how time flies. I was just telling my pregnant friend that I remember the feeling of having my daughter in my belly and that once and a while if im hungry or (excuse me) gassy lol it reminds me of the kicking and moving around of the baby, It made her laugh =) Well I'm going to go to bed now and try to get some real sleep (I've been sick for 4 days but its gotten a lot better so maybe I can sleep now). Goodnight, Catie ; ) I finally got a job! I am now going to be working part time at Queens College, thanks to my mother and her co-worker putting in some good words about me! I'm so excited to start. My boss told me I should be starting this Monday hopefully!
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest. Even though it isn't a job that has to do with what I went to school for, It is a very good opportunity for me because they offer full benefits, I can go to any CUNY school for free as an employee, and amazing prices for employees and students for the childcare that is on campus! And yes this is all for only working part time! -Continuing to be positive =) I did end up re-activating my Facebook. But I did make a lot of changes to it like deleting things that I've liked that I don't anymore or anything immature. I deleted some "friends"... that took forever lol. I also went through my pictures and made the ones I don't need EVERYONE AROUND THE WORLD to see private or just deleted them. I'm trying to clean it up, along with my life in the real world.
I've been on about 6 interviews in the past month and so far no luck ... but for me it's not about luck, it's about whats right for me. I will get the job that will be right for me in every way and i will be very happy with it. *I have been wanting to work in a plastic surgeons office ever since i went for an interview for one in the city a few months ago (couldn't take it because of child care issues which are now solved). It has just stuck in my head, and today, like every other day I woke up and thought to myself how everything is getting better and i am more and more happy every day that comes. Then I posted on my facebook saying "positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes" and 5 minutes later i recieved a call from ......... A PLASTIC SURGEONS OFFICE!!! needing a Medical Assistant! That just goes to show you, if you believe in something and want it bad enough you will be faced with it when the time is So yeah I deleted my Facebook ... for now (thinking about putting it up and making it pryvate and editing my "friends" list) ... and my Twitter ... forever! With Twitter its just a way for people to see what you are doing from minute to minute let alone the regular day to day updates (if that) on Facebook. I personally, just realized that keeping your life as private as possible is a better idea then letting anyone and everyone know every detail of it.
I mean when something big comes up like a new baby or a graduation or a big celebration of something important in your life and you feel like you want to "tell the world", post it. But Facebook and Twitter and all those other sites should definitely not be used as a way to express your anger, sadness, jealousy, etc. Those feelings are definitely private. I myself have "shared" one to many times when I had those feelings and I definitely regret that. I try now to make sure that when people see me or hear from or about me that it's always positive. It makes for a more positive reputation and following that are frequent positive "reunions" when you bump into someone you know. Another thing, With Facebook people have so many "friends" some have up to 500 ... I'm sorry but no one that I know except for maybe the President of the United States has and speaks to that many "friends". So when I do open my Facebook account again I will be sure to think to myself when I get a friend request... "Do I know this person?, Do I want this person seeing my updates?, Has this person had a positive or negative impact on my life?, and most of all Is this person or has this person ever been a "friend" to me and how and why did we end up going separate ways?. If you have a negative feeling about ANY or a few of the answers to these questions HIT DENY! Anyway I am still on the search for a job... It feels like I'm getting close though. I just cant wait to get my life on track and start doing what I can to be the Mother that my daughter can look up to and the woman that my family can be proud of. I have many hopes and dreams for mine and my daughters life, the key to actually making it happen is believing in my heart that I am going to achieve it without any doubt! (LOA) Hey guys, well girls or whoever is actually reading at this point lol. I'm sorry I haven't been writing. I've been so busy with my personal life. I need to practice what I preach when I say to use the Law of Attraction. So I'm done doing things to make everyone else happy (besides my daughter ;). It's time to make me happy now. I am focusing even more now on trying to get a job. I've already estimated what i'll be making and I've made my budget! It's never too early to plan where and how you will spend and how much you will be saving!
Since last time I've been here I have stopped talking to one of my best friends. It hurts, it really does but I've noticed that I have to deal with a lot less drama. lets just leave it at that lol. I also made a bucket list I am not sure if I mentioned that yet but, yeah I made one! It gives you something to look forward to. Also it gives you incentive to get things done. One of my favorite ones on there is #29. Spend a week in silence. I don't know what made me think of that but i cant wait to do it, I think I might do it on the 24th of this month! Anyway I'm rambling now so I'm going to stop for now and from now on I'll try to blog every day so i dont talk (type) so much lol. (hugs) <3 Catie _Wow! ........ I can't believe this is the last day of 2011 ... I can picture every New Years Eve in my mind from time time I was 6 up to 1/1/11 ... I can remember most of the empty resolutions I've made, the promises I've kept, the lives that were lost, the tears that I've shead, the goals that I've met and the ones I haven't YET. Most of all I remember that through it all was my Family, And for the past 17 years my best friend Kristen. For the past 9 years Ariella and Tana. For the past 7 years Michael Russo. I'm also greatful for those who have stuck out in my life and made an impact on it to make me smile at the memories we've had even though we haven't stayed as close as we may have wanted even though we can change that for the better ;) like: Jessie, Tiffany, Emilia. Years are filled with Joy, fun, happiness, craziness, laughter, tears, learning, mistakes, & regrets. Through all the years we grow stronger and get smarter. The only thing we can do now looking into the new years ahead of us would be to keep positive, count your blessings, smile when you think its impossible to do so, help and love the people around you as much as you can and you will be as happy as can be. Happy New Year everyone I love you all and thank each one of you for being in my life!
_It's hard to accept but you can't change the past. You can't go back and manipulate things to the way you wanted them to happen, because life would be meaningless, boring and just not worth living. But you can change the future and that's a beautiful thing about life. Yes you will make mistakes and yes you will have bad days - but as long as you let the past go, you'll have such a gorgeous and bright future ahead of you, knowing that things were meant to happen, knowing that each day you will learn something so that you keep growing to be a better person ♥
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